Friday, October 16, 2009

Quick Takes Friday



I'm back! Did you miss me?

Yes, I know it's been forever since I last posted, and that brings me to my first Quick take today. . .

*I have kind of been neglecting this part of my life - this non-Mommy part. All of my writing energy goes towards updating Bjorn's blog, and all my non-writing energy makes sure that the house, the baby and the dog are all clean and well. Then I focus on the Hubs and then Me. But I'm going to get a little selfish and let the dog and the house slide some. . . . I may be a Mama now, but I am not just a Mama. And I need to have my Non-Mama Me time everyday. Here's to a dirty house but a happy life!!

*I have no desire in "keeping up with the Joneses". I want to keep up with the Hatfields and McCoys. The Ewings. The man who invented Google. Aim high. Dream big.

*My 10 year HS reunion is in three weeks. Three weeks! I hadn't planned on attending, what with facebook and blogging pretty much keeping me up on everyone I really care about. But my brother and sis-in-law (who graduated from HS with me) will be there, so my reunion is pretty much an excuse to buy a pretty dress and hang out with them. And to got to a HS football game. . . something I haven't done in. . . well. . . ten years.

*It is possible to grow veggies in Phoenix. In case you were wondering. Our zucchinis have been the size of my thigh (seriously - they are huge!) while the pickling cucumbers and yellow squash are more natural-sized. Just like the ones you buy in the store. So far, I have only used our garden veggies to make grilled zucchini and some zucchini bread. I'm waiting for just the right time to make some squash soup or casseroles. Yummy!!!

*I *heart* coffee. A big thank-you to my local grocery store for putting Starbucks coffee on sale for $5.99 a lb. Yes, it was me who cleaned out your stock of Breakfast Blend. Sorry. Also, a big shout-out thank-you to Starbucks themselves for putting a coupon for a FREE COFFEE right there on the outside of the bag for everyone to miss. Thankfully, I am such a coffee freak that I actually read your bag and I noticed. Saving me money and giving me free coffee? I'm in! (And a special thanks to friends who brought us coffee back from the amazing growers in Hawaii! Love it!!)

*I need some new books to read. Any ideas on great ones out there? I am NOT a Twilight fan. I am NOT a Danielle Steel fan. I AM a Philipa Gregory fan. And I DO like alot of the Oprah Book Club pieces (The Namesake, The Pilots Wife, The Time Travelers Wife . . . . to name a few). Any suggestions?

*Sigh. . . I'm so out of practice with writing, I can't even think of a 7th quick take that doesn't have to do with Bjorn. Not that I can't write about him. . . . but I am trying to bring back the little pieces of me from before him. What did I like that I know barely give myself time to think about? What did I do that now I just don't do? What political views did I have that now are shoved to the back behind 'Does he need a bath' and 'Is that spit-up on my shirt'?

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Sew this

For my milestone (28th) birthday this year, my parents got me a sewing machine.

Yup. A sewing machine. One of those thingys with thread and needles and alot of different stitches.

I had no clue what I was doing.

That was June.

Here we are in August and I have been creating some mini-masterpieces for friends gifts. I can't put pictures on here, nor tell you what they are (duh! They are for gifts. I'll show you after I give them away!). Let's just say that I am pretty damn good at sewing.

So when I got fed up with not being able to find a remote control because they were scattered all over the house, I had a brainstorm. Why don't I make a remote control holder??

I searched online for patterns and then realized that I don't know how to read a pattern. Hmmmm. . . I was on my own for this one.

This is what I came up with:



How does that work? Let me show you. . . .






It's only my first draft. . . and it looks pretty crappy up close. But for my first time without a pattern and first time using elastic, I don't think it's so bad.

Besides, it was fun. Alot of fun. This is only the second time I've created something without a pattern. The first time was my son.

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Joneses? I don't even KNOW any Joneses!!!

Remember when "keeping up with the Joneses" meant buying that new car or that great pair of shoes?

Uh uh. Not anymore.

Now it's not about keeping up with the Joneses but keeping down with the Joneses.

Huh?

Ok, let me explain.

For years I have been a bargain shopper. If I want something nice (i.e. expensive), I will wait for the perfect sale, or I will make do with the knock-off. And when a friend or the Hubs would comment on this new perfect dress and shoes, I would immediately say where I got it and for what price. I have no shame, and I love a great deal.

But like every American, I still use my credit card, I still owe on a car and I have an outstanding student loan. (Not outstanding as in "Wow! What a great loan you have" or even outstanding like "I'm out standing in the street, waiting for you". No, it's more outstanding as in "You owe the bank, so pay forever and ever". That kind of outstanding.)

And I think ---ahem thought ---- that this debt was normal and I would be fine.

Oh, no no no no no.

Apparently, the cool thing now is to not own it all. The way to keep down with the Joneses is to get completely out of debt - even if it means forsaking everything and everybody for years until you get there. Then, and only then, can you start enjoying life. But, don't enjoy life too much. You still have to save and budget like before!!

Online I am a member of many budgety, money-saving websites. One focuses on coupon deals for the week, one on ways to re-use that garage sale item into something beautiful and one for mommy deals.

My Dad has been trying to get me to live like this for years. He read a book a long time ago called The Millionaire Next Door. I read parts of it, and enjoyed it, but thought 'Nah, I'm not in debt. I'm just enjoying life.'

Then Dave Ramsey came along. And it's like a freakin' cult, people. Seriously.

Everywhere I go now there seems to be a Ramseyite waving his freak flag of no debt. I'm very happy for these people and I wish desperately to be one of them so I can no longer think about money when it comes to every decision.

But I'm not ready to drink the kool-aid.

I mean, it is such a stringent diet for your wallet. I think of the things I have planned in the next few months: dinner out with friends this Saturday, margarita night with other friends in a few weeks, august birthdays, girls night the second Monday of the month, football games, hockey games, baseball games, etc. Why should I have to stop living now so that I can live later? Isn't there a way to live in the now and still live debt-free?

Of course, Dave says that this doesn't work. And maybe he's right. Maybe this is like any diet, and once I get to a certain place in my bank account, I will gorge myself on chocolate cake and cookies. But what if I'm right? What if I can still have fun, still enjoy life and still become debt-free? Couldn't that be possible, too?

So take that Joneses. I may be digging myself out with a smaller shovel, but at least I'll be whistling while I do it.

Friday, July 24, 2009

Show Me Your Life. . . . .

Oh, how glad I am that I check my blog daily. Otherwise, I would have missed my friend Paige reminding me that this is Friday, which means another installment of. . . .


Show me Your Life at Kelly's Korner Blog!!

And this week is spectacular. This week, I get to show off my pride and joy.

No, not my new baby boy. Although you can read all about him here. My other pride and joy.

My wedding dress.

Ahhhhhh. . . . . memories. Sweet memories. So without further ado. . . . . .

My dress is a Maggie Sottero I found at a boutique in Houston. It was too uppity a place for me, and I disliked the way I was treated (No, I do not want a tiara. Yes, I think I might wear cowboy boots with this dress. No, I do not need hundreds of dollars worth of accesories. . . . etc) but the second I put this dress on, I knew it was exactly the opposite of everything I had ever wanted and exactly right for everything I needed. It was perfect.



That's my best woman lacing me up. She's getting married soon. I hope I can return the favor!



I didn't end up wearing my cowboy boots with the dress (although, looking back, I really wish I had!!!). I wore cure white heels I already had (my something old) and changed into these cute flip flops during the reception. I made these for me, my mom, my mom-in-law and my girls. We all wore them and our feet were thankful at the end of the night!



This is one of my bridal portraits. Taken in the Japanese Gardens in Houston in the humidity of August. You can't tell in this pic, but sweat was running down my back and I was dying for something cold to drink. But the picture turned out great, so who am I to complain??



As a finishing touch, this is the new Hubs and I dancing to our firstsong - Harry Connick Jr's 'You Belong to Me'.

Happy Marriage everybody!!

Thursday, May 28, 2009

Casa of the Happy Sun: The Nursery




Another week, another room at Kelly's Korner Blog!

This week is my absolute favorite because we have put so much work into this nursery. Our first kiddo is due in ONE DAY (read all about it here) and everything is ready for D-day!

We have decided to keep the baby's sex a surprise, so we did everything as gender-netural as possible. Which works great for me, because I'm not a fan of pink decor and I think all little girls love green and blue just as much as little boys! So, here's the pics of our nursery. . . .

Hubs and I painted all the stripes and Hubs did the chair rail all by himself when I was out of town working one weekend. Isn't he amazing??



This is the view as you enter the tiny 10 X 10 space. The crib, which I love, was a Craigslist steal. And although there is bedding on the crib, if the kiddo happens to be a girl, I have the perfect girl bedding all picked out at Target and I'm stripping this down and going to town with magentas, greens and browns. If the kiddo is a boy, this stuff stays and I have a brown polka-dot bumper to use.

You know, looking at this picture, I think the curtains really don't do the room justice. Any good ideas on how to spice up these boring curtains and make it kid-fun??




This is a close-up of one of the plaques on the wall. They are from Scotland, where my Hubs was born, and were used in his room when he was a kiddo. They are all plaques of nursery rhymes and I think they are so unusual - have you ever seen anything like them? They're wonderful!!




Another view of this tiny little room. You can see the glider and ottoman tucked into a corner, and the dresser/changing table across from it. On the wall are my hand-painted letters and picture frame. Bjorn is the kiddo's name while he/she is in utero and when we find out if Bjorn is a boy or a girl, I'm going to make prettier painted letters. This was just a trial run. You can also see the mobile hanging on the crib.




We had to have the Texas Tech fight song playing in a lullaby. Go Red Raiders!



This was another Craigslist steal. We both wanted a dresser that would last beyond baby-hood all the way to college (hopefully!). The hutch part comes off, too, which is great, because we might decide to put up shelves instead of having that. I'm always in the process of decorating, so it could change at any time. Hubs refinished the top and made sure that the changing pad was secure.

And that will be Bjorn's world when he/she gets here! We feel like we have everything we could possibly need for the kiddo, but can't shake the feeling we're missing something. . . . . spot anything that I absolutely have to have???

Thanks for visiting my nursery - maybe next week I'll have pictures with a newborn baby in it!!!!

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Casa of the Happy Sun: The "Dining Room"




This week on Kelly's Korner Blog, she is highlighting dining rooms. Since I have never had a dining room and I missed the blog on kitchens a few weeks ago, I'm gonna cheat and add pics of our "dining room". Otherwise known as the "extension of the kitchen that holds a table".

The picture of our dining room should really be our couch, because Hubs and I LOVE to make gourmet meals and then veg in front of the tube to Law & Order. We're very classy.

*** Full disclosure: my kitchen is not always this clean. My in-laws are coming in town Saturday, so I had to clean before they arrive. And, after the first set of pictures, I realized that I had waaayyy too much clutter on my counter tops and I finally cleared most of it. Thanks, Kelly, for making me see my house through another's eyes - I'm getting rid of the clutter! Besides, I'm due to have my first baby in one week (ahhhhh!!!!!!), so I'm trying to get the house in perfect shape before I deliver - because I know it will never be that way again. . . . . . ***

Now, without further ado. . . . my dining room:




This is the view looking in from the living room area. You'll notice that none of my appliances match and I say - good for you for noticing! Now, forget about it, because do those things really matter? What matters is the paint color that I love (yellow should always be in kitchens, I think!) that we painstakingly fauxed after tearing down the 1970's wallpaper. And notice the ledge - we have these ledges in every room in our house and although I can't figure out what to do with them everywhere else, I love my kitchen ledge. I think I need some more greenery up there, tho. What do you think??



Close-up of a piece of the kitchen ledge. When I first started antiquing, I fell in love with old coffee grinders. Maybe it's the Barista in me. But for $65-100 a pop, I had to be choosy, so I only have two. This is actually my Mom & Dad's coffee grinder that they registered for for their wedding!!! Barely 50 and their wedding gifts are "antiques" - just think what our kids will have! And, yes, we love our spirits. From Lubbock to Denver to Lewisville, NC we have growlers, wine and other bottles that show we know how to have a good time in any state!




A little bit of a dark pic, I know, but I'm not fancy with cameras like Hubs. Squint a little. It helps.

This is the "dining room" part of the kitchen. The table and chairs are real oak and were $20 (!!!!) from a garage sale. Hubs refinished and stained them. Laborious work, but I love the messy look of them. The hutch is my fave find because I spent hours looking on the Internet and in antique stores for the absolutely perfect hutch.



And I found this absolutely perfect one on Craigslist for only $75 (!!!). Amazing, huh? I'm such a yard-saler. I can't help it; I'm cheap. :) We don't have that much space, so a smallish hutch was needed. And what did I find? A smallish one that helps complete my hodge-podge of country eclectic charm. I don't keep china in it, really. Just a few key pieces and then alot of booze. It's our china/liquor cabinet.



One of my other fave things in my dining room is this: a gift from my mom to my Great-Uncle when he became a priest. He has passed away, but I got to keep this remembrance piece. My mom made it out of some kind of scratchy cloth, using the felt letters to remember the most important part of the mass. It's always been one of my favorite things and now it hangs, in a place of honor, in my dining room.

That's it for my dining room. I can't wait to have you come back next Friday and see our nursery - especially since our first baby is due next Saturday. Maybe I'll cheat and post early? Anything for you to see our adorable space!! See ya next time. . . and if you're ever in the neighborhood, stop by and see us!

***Why the Casa of the Happy Sun? When we bought this house, it came complete with a sun-baked clay figure in the front. Complete with big ol' smile and all. And since we always welcome guests and friends that are passing through Phoenix. . . . you have the Casa of the Happy Sun!***

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

There's no accounting for accountability

Once again, my responsibility is no longer to just myself and my family, but to all the screw-ups out there who can't manage their own lives.

Yes, I'm ranting again.

A few weeks ago I blogged about the mortgage industry and the government; namely, how I could have gotten into a larger house and I could have lived in a nicer neighborhood and I could have gotten so behind on my bills that I needed a bailout - but I didn't. Hubs and I bought a home reasonably and responsibly. Yet I did not get any thanks from the government ($8000 tax credit, refunds, incentives) even though my buying a home helped the industry, then and now.

Ok, enough about that. You can read the blog if you're interested in my rant on housing.

This is a completely different rant - on government and the credit card industry.

Let's start at the beginning.

When I was in college, walking across campus was a mine field of credit card offers. Everywhere I turned, a booth was set up with an attractive frat boy asking if I wanted a free shirt/one month's room and board/university blanket and all I have to do is sign up for this credit card!!! I didn't read the fine print and soon became saddled with too many free t-shirts that didn't quite fit right and a stack of credit cards with annual fees and high interest rates. Perfect for a college freshman away from home for the first time without a job.

I learned my lesson quick and by my junior year in college carried only one credit card with no annual fee and a low interest rate. No, I didn't pay it off each month. But I always paid more than the minimum balance and was never late on a payment. I was what the credit industry liked (I thought) - a customer who racked up interest each month, but paid on time. They could count on me and my wasted money!

The card - acquired in 1999 - lasted until early 2006, when I received some disturbing news. I had moved across the state, having my former roommates forward my mail to a friends place until I had a permanent address in my new city. I used my card often in those first few months after the move; as is often the case, my new job didn't pay as well as expected and my new city was much more expensive than the last. My balance began to slowly accumulate again. Unfortunately, in the midst of moving and changing careers, I had forgotten to change my address with the credit companies (this was before online banking) and I missed one payment. One. ONE.

I had never had problems with my credit company before, and had become accustomed to opening the bill, looking at the minimum payment and doubling it. I blindly paid the card, never bothering to look at the rates or disclosures. Big mistake. After about five months of this (late 2005 and early 2006), I realized that the large number under "Total Balance" was not declining. Turns out, my one missed/late payment over 7 years had caused the company to jack my interest rate from 13% to 27%. Yes, they more than doubled my interest rate!!!! Many angry calls later, I discovered that they were not willing to lower my interest rate. Not a bit. Not even after 7 years of on-time payments.

But I didn't cry that the credit company should coddle me or take care of me. I was ticked off, not beat down. So I did what any responsible, pissed off person would do.

I transferred that balance to a different company offering 0% interest for 1 year. And I paid it off in 1 year. I still have that card, too, with an interest rate of 7%. At least someone thinks I'm a good customer.

But that situation could change after this weekend.

There is a bill that just cleared through the Senate, landing on Obama's desk today, concerning the regulation of the credit card industry. In this bill - which was overwhelmingly voted for, from both republicans and democrats - credit card companies cannot raise interest rates on customers until they are more than 60 days late, thus eliminating the nastiness that I had had to go through when I was just a misunderstood twenty-something. Ok. Everyone deserves a second chance to get things right, right? So, you miss one payment? Let's let you make it up and not miss another one, or then we'll have to do something about it.

Oh. . . but that's not all.

This bill also helps clear the way for all credit card owners to become equal. Across the board. So, even though I pay my credit cards each month, doubling/tripling/quadrupling the minimums in order to pay them off completely in time, my card would carry the same interest rate as someone who does not pay them off each month. Someone who just keeps racking it up and not caring about bringing down the debt.

Not to mention that all cards may soon have annual fees. And, there is some speculation that credit card companies will begin charging interest from the moment of purchase, so even if you pay your balance entirely each month, you will be charged an interest rate for that month on each transaction. No more using your cards just for free airline miles - those miles aren't so free anymore. There really is no such thing as a free lunch anymore.

In the article that got me ranting and raving this morning, the publisher of the Nilson Report David Robertson says "Customers who pay in full each month will have "to start picking up the slack, to start pulling their weight.""

Whhhhatt?!?!

Let's say that I use my card responsibly, the way credit cards were meant to be used. Emergencies only, or for everyday expenses that are paid in full at the end of the 30 day cycle. Either way, I pay off my debt. So, since I pay in full each month, I am not contributing to the credit industry at all and need to have some regulations put in place so that I can start "pulling my own weight".

I think paying my credit card off each month is pulling my own weight. What David Robertson, the government, and the credit card companies want me to do is start pulling the weight of everyone else. Pulling the weight of deadbeats and irresponsible spenders. Pulling the weight of those who get in over their head and decide that instead of being smart about it and paying down their debt, they will just continue to accumulate more and more. After all, the government will save them from themselves, won't it? It did with the mortgage industry. Who was helped by the regulations there? Not I, a responsible homeowner.

There is no accountability and no personal responsibility anymore.

I am sorry that you are over your head in credit card debt and mortgage debt. But don't take it out on me. I didn't cause you to spend that way, and I bet that if I paid off all your bills for you, you would do it again. Because as you learn when you're a kid, it's easier to spend your parent's money than it is to spend your own. Don't let the government be your parent. Regulate yourself. Take accountability for your actions. Because I'm sick of taking responsibility for you.